Fix capabilities handling for iflib drivers

Fix capabilities handling for iflib drivers

Various capabilities were not being handled correctly in the
SIOCSIFCAP handler. Specifically:

IFCAP_RXCSUM and IFCAP_RXCSUM_IPV6 could be set even if not supported

It was impossible to disable IFCAP_RXCSUM and/or IFCAP_RXCSUM_IPV6 via
ifconfig since it does ioctl() per command-line flag rather than combine
them into a single call.

IFCAP_VLAN_HWCSUM could not be modified via the ioctl()

Setting any combination of the three IFCAP_WOL flags would set only
IFCAP_WOL_MCAST | IFCAP_WOL_MAGIC. For example, setting only
IFCAP_WOL_UCAST would result in both IFCAP_WOL_MCAST and IFCAP_WOL_MAGIC
being enabled, but IFCAP_WOL_UCAST would not be enabled.

Because if_vlancap() was called before if_togglecapenable(), vlan flags
were sometimes not applied correctly.

Interfaces were being unnecessarily stopped and restarted for WoL

PR:		231151
Submitted by:	Kaho Toshikazu <kaho@elam.kais.kyoto-u.ac.jp>
Reported by:	Shirkdog <mshirk@daemon-security.com>
Reviewed by:	galladin
Approved by:	re (gjb)
Sponsored by:	Limelight Networks
Differential Revision:	https://reviews.freebsd.org/D17158