netmap: don't schedule kqueue notify task when kqueue is not used
This change adds a counter (kqueue_users) to keep track of how many
kqueue users are referencing a given struct nm_selinfo.
In this way, nm_os_selwakeup() can schedule the kevent notification
task only when kqueue is actually being used.
This is important to avoid wasting CPU in the common case where
kqueue is not used.