Limit the amount of KVM reserved for the buffer cache and for swap-meta

Limit the amount of KVM reserved for the buffer cache and for swap-meta
information.  The default limits only effect machines with > 1GB of ram
and can be overriden with two new kernel conf variables VM_SWZONE_SIZE_MAX
and VM_BCACHE_SIZE_MAX, or with loader variables kern.maxswzone and
kern.maxbcache.  This has the effect of leaving more KVM available for
sizing NMBCLUSTERS and 'maxusers' and should avoid tripups where a sysad
adds memory to a machine and then sees the kernel panic on boot due to
running out of KVM.

Also change the default swap-meta auto-sizing calculation to allocate half
of what it was previously allocating.  The prior defaults were way too high.
Note that we cannot afford to run out of swap-meta structures so we still
stay somewhat conservative here.