tcp: fix simultaneous open and refine e80062a2d43

tcp: fix simultaneous open and refine e80062a2d43

- The soisconnected() call on transition from SYN_RCVD to ESTABLISHED
  is also necessary for a half-synchronized connection.  Fix that
  just setting the flag, when we transfer SYN-SENT -> SYN-RECEIVED.
- Provide a comment that explains at what conditions the call to
  soisconnected() is necessary.
- Hence mechanically rename the TF_INCQUEUE flag to TF_SONOTCONN.
- Extend the change to the BBR and RACK stacks.

Note: the interaction between the accept_filter(9) and the socket layer
is not fully consistent, yet.  For most accept filters this call to
soisconnected() will not move the connection from the incomplete queue
to the complete.  The move would happen only when the filter has received
the desired data, and soisconnected() would be called once again from
sorwakeup().  Ideally, we should mark socket as connected only there,
and leave the soisconnected() from SYN_RCVD->ESTABLISHED only for the
simultaneous open case.  However, this doesn't yet work.

Reviewed by:		rscheff, tuexen, rrs
Differential revision:	https://reviews.freebsd.org/D36641