socket: Add assertions around naked refcount decrements

socket: Add assertions around naked refcount decrements

Sockets in a listen queue hold a reference to the parent listening
socket.  Several code paths release this reference manually when moving
a child socket out of the queue.

Replace comments about the expected post-decrement refcount value with
assertions.  Use refcount_load() instead of a plain load.  No functional
change intended.

Sponsored by:	The FreeBSD Foundation

(cherry picked from commit 6b288408ca32e68c74f6ab12324448ab4862a045)