posixshm: fix setting of shm_flags

posixshm: fix setting of shm_flags

Noted in D24652, we currently set shmfd->shm_flags on every
shm_open()/shm_open2(). This wasn't properly thought out; one shouldn't be
able to specify incompatible flags on subsequent opens of non-anon shm.

Move setting of shm_flags explicitly to the two places shmfd are created, as
we do with seals, and validate when we're opening a pre-existing mapping
that we've either passed no flags or we've passed the exact same flags as
the first time.

Reviewed by:	kib, markj
Differential Revision:	https://reviews.freebsd.org/D26242