fix a problem referencing free'd memory. This is only a problem for

fix a problem referencing free'd memory.  This is only a problem for
kqueue write events on a socket and you regularly create tons of pipes
which overwrites the structure causing a panic when removing the knote
from the list.  If the peer has gone away (and it's a write knote), then
don't bother trying to remove the knote from the list.

Submitted by:	Brian Buchanan and myself
Obtained from:	nCircle