epair: Simplify the transmit path and address lost wakeups

epair: Simplify the transmit path and address lost wakeups

epairs currently shuttle all transmitted packets through a single global
taskqueue thread.  To hand packets over to the taskqueue thread, each
epair maintains a pair of ring buffers and a lockless scheme for
notifying the thread of pending work.  The implementation can lead to
lost wakeups, causing to-be-transmitted packets to end up stuck in the
queue.

Rather than extending the existing scheme, simply replace it with a
linked list protected by a mutex, and use the mutex to synchronize
wakeups of the taskqueue thread.  This appears to give equivalent or
better throughput with >= 16 producer threads and eliminates the lost
wakeups.

Reviewed by:	kp
MFC after:	1 week
Sponsored by:	Klara, Inc.
Sponsored by:	Modirum MDPay
Differential Revision:	https://reviews.freebsd.org/D38843

(cherry picked from commit df7bbd8c354a907d2c2f85a6e18f356f76458f57)